| One | Two | Three | Four | Five | Six | Seven | Eight | Nine |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Avoids | ||||||||
| anger | recognizing own needs | failure | ordinariness | emptiness | deviance | pain | weakness, being a sucker | conflict |
| Seeks | ||||||||
| perfect | helpful | success | special, unique | full of learning | dutiful, loyal, responsible | fun-filled | strong, just | tranquil, harmonious |
| Pride | ||||||||
| I'm hard-working | I'm helpful | I'm successful | I'm unique | I'm knowing | I'm loyal | I'm nice | I'm powerful | I'm OK |
| Sense of virtue, | ||||||||
| critical standards for self | helpfulness | success, efficiency | sensitivity, couthness | lone thinker, withdrawn, aloof | obeying rules | constant cheerfulness | strength | detachment |
| anger | manipulativeness | vanity | vainglory | lack of generosity | self-righteousness | inauthentic reaction to reality | arrogance, lack of remorse | sloth |
| Sense of vice, | ||||||||
| not try to do better | sense of own needs | acceptance of failure | ordinariness | rely on others | break laws | seriousness | weakness | restlessness, presumption |
| self-acceptance | virtuous love of self | humility | simplicity | reflective dialogue | commitment to absolute values | temperance | gentle disposition | sense of justice |
| One | Two | Three | Four | Five | Six | Seven | Eight | Nine |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Self-concept, false sense of reality. Either outer order (pride in how they change the world), inner order (pride in how they are), inner-outer harmony (pride in conforming). | ||||||||
| outer order | inner order | outer-inner harmony | outer order | inner order | outer-inner harmony | outer order | inner order | outer-inner harmony |
| Mode of behaviour, believe fulfillment is attained by being aggressive (move against people), dependent (move towards people), withdrawing (move away from people). | ||||||||
| aggressive | dependent | aggressive | withdrawing | withdrawing | dependent | dependent | aggressive | withdrawing |
| Resulting sense of what life is about | ||||||||
| shoulds | approval | appearances | scripts | correctness | apprehensions | plans | control | harmony |
| Centres, | ||||||||
| gut | heart | heart | heart | head | head | head | gut | gut |
| gut, heart | heart, gut | heart | heart, head | head, heart | head | head, gut | gut, head | gut |
| head | head | heart | gut | gut | head | heart | heart | gut |
| Experience of time | ||||||||
| not enough time, dragged on by it | interpersonal time is good time | time is to be used | time is measured by emotional intensity | watch time go by reflectively | time is the boss | time is expandable, procrastinate | control time: punctual | metronomic, need schedules |
| One | Two | Three | Four | Five | Six | Seven | Eight | Nine |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Passion | ||||||||
| acidic inner anger | pride | deceit | envy | stinginess | fear | over-indulgence | arrogance | laziness |
| Pitfalls | ||||||||
| obsessive, fussy, on edge, hard to live with oneself | clingly, selfish, manipulative | becomes like a success machine, with no place for others | melancholy, snobbish, unreal as a person | aloof, concern about own thoughts rather than others' understanding | legalism, self-righteousness | tries to avoid pain, over-indulgence | authoritarianism | indolence, relying on others |
| obsessed with unreal perfection | project, repress, deny own needs; little identity apart from ability to help others | image-conscious, vanity | dramatize ordinary suffering: too special to fit in | elaborate system substitutes for reality | unsure of self, lack confidence to act on own, indecisive | whitewash the unpleasant | quick to negate, slow to affirm; sledgehammer | anaesthetized to life |
| Moving with the arrows of compulsion, withdraw→dependent→aggressive | ||||||||
| depair→4 | presumption→8 | despair→9 | false hope→2 | false hope→7 | presumption→3 | presumption→1 | despair→5 | false hope→6 |
| Despair, melancholy, as a result of mountain of work | Backbiting, belittling friends | Despair, inactivity as a result of failure | Become clingy | Fantasy world | Feigned decisiveness, presumption, unsubstantiated self-confidence | Moody, resentful | Too much resistance from others leads to despair, withdrawal | Unsure of self, indecisive, have scruples. |
| Compulsive totem | ||||||||
| terrier | cat | peacock | basset hound | fox | rabbit | monkey | rhinocerous | elephant |
| Behaviour, governed by the centres | ||||||||
| biased thinking, make situation deal with them, not try to understand whole | narrow perspective, only talk about people special to them | sacrifice personal relationships, only interested in self-service, body-language is a mark | behaviour is put-on, expressing feeling not self | deliberate, self-conscious, awkward | threatened by new knowledge, rigid behaviour, duty rather than affection | make plans, presume others will fall in | think they are relating, when actually asserting | lack a natural spontaneous response, content with habitual friends, content with repetitious interests |
| One | Two | Three | Four | Five | Six | Seven | Eight | Nine |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Good points to take on | ||||||||
| persue perfection, defend truth, generously teach others, self-improvement | helpful, attentive, see others' needs | enthusiastic, precise, good leaders | romantic, passion for spontaneity and simplicity, original expression | think systematically, generalize | loyality, conscience | optimistic, enthusiastic, guileless, contagious enjoyment of life | see through pretension and hypocrisy, gravitate to power, use strength to debunk | excellent reconcilers, naturally objective, impartial, dispassionate |
| Good qualities seen in Jesus | ||||||||
| idealism, fairness | responds to people's needs | work hard for achievement | sensitive | seek wisdom, guru | loyalty, dedication to his society, dutiful | enjoyment, fun | sense of justice, fearless, speaks up, doesn't compromise, conscience | patience |
| Redeemed totem | ||||||||
| ant | irish setter | bald eagle | black beauty | owl | deer | butterfly | tiger | porpoise |
| hard work to a purpose | emotionally effusive | at ease with who they are | special, graceful | alert rest, then swoop in | draws strength from group | they beauty is a reflection | beautiful and strong | relaxed, move with flow, intelligent, cooperative; aqueous mammal is a vulnerable contradiction |
| Symbolic colour | ||||||||
| silver | red | bright yellow | mauve | cobalt | beige | green | black or white | gold or saffron |
| clear, sharp | warmth, feeling | stand out | subtle, understated | deep down | adaptable anywhere | vitality, life | extremes | a precious gift |
| One | Two | Three | Four | Five | Six | Seven | Eight | Nine |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Avoid pitfalls by | ||||||||
| compassion, accept people and things as they are: all will be well | realising that love is freely given, not earned | don't sacrifice personal integrity for goals; accept failure | become more active, not withdrawn | patience, love for slow-coaches; participate, don't just observe | see spirit of law, not letter | be secure in the present moment, not always planning; accept necessary pain | see strength in gentleness, be vulnerable | find spirit within seld: call to mission; search for ways to give love and community |
| Personal redemption: move against the arrows, withdrawing→aggressive→dependent | ||||||||
| accepting→7 | defensive→4 | accepting→6 | offensive→1 | offensive→8 | defensive→9 | defensive→5 | accepting→2 | offensive→3 |
| be less serious, part of the fun, accept the objective good | express self as special, unique | learn a conscience, take on self-image of society | be more involved with the world: my sensitivity is a gift for the betterment of others | more aggressive, willing to be bruised; be earthy | let go, trust instincts, seek harmony not duty | more observant, reflective | take more trouble to be liked | set goals, move to them; look for personal love, cultivate new interests and friends |
| A friend should | ||||||||
| ask questions, don't tell; tease | love them for themselves, own their personal needs | affirm personal qualitites, not achievements | a friend who understands them should share his own perspectives, tell them to appreciate ordinary things | invite into new activity | ask what they really want to do, support them; don't advise | call on their neglect of plans | tell how others feel, with gentleness | call them to take a stand, make a difference |
| One | Two | Three | Four | Five | Six | Seven | Eight | Nine |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Intellectual conversion: trap | ||||||||
| perfection | service | efficiency | authenticity | knowledge | security | idealism | justice (decided by self) | self-abasement (think energy will only flow from outside) |
| growth (an evolutionary process) | grace (love is a free gift) | God's will (submit to God's goals) | union with God ("make that and the action fine") | divine providence (God will provde whatever we need) | trust in God | co-creation (involvement in God's work, Paschal sacrifice) | compassion (let God judge) | unconditional love (need to know they are loveable) |
| Affective conversion: passion, which focusses on trap, | ||||||||
| anger | pride (messiah complex) | deceit | envy (want attention for self) | stinginess | fear | over-indulgence | arrogance | laziness |
| serenity | humility (acknowledge own needs) | truthfulness (serves God's will) | equanimity | detachment | courage (since God is with you whatever you do) | sobriety | simplicity (be child-like, not strong) | diligence (work in gratitude for God's love) |
| Instinctual conversion: desolation, moving with arrows, | ||||||||
| distaste, restlessness | darkness | turmoil | distaste (for prayer) | selfishness | restlessness | darkness | selfishness | despair |
| peace | being thankful | peace | being on fire | being on fire | context of God, being on fire | strengthened | being thankful | being thankful |